Habits

The 4 Elements of Deliberate Practice -- The Source of Kobe's Greatness

The 4 Elements of Deliberate Practice -- The Source of Kobe's Greatness

As a kid, I remember practicing my jump shot in the driveway. I would imagine the clock ticking down -- "5", "4", "3", "2", "1" and releasing my jump shot, while yelling "Kobe!" --- Only to watch the ball clang off the rim. For some reason we thought that calling out the name of a prominent athlete (Jordan, Garnett, Iverson, etc) would somehow magically cause us to shoot a higher percentage. Perhaps it did.

This was at the age that all of my peers dreamed of becoming a professional athlete. We wanted to be the next Jordan, Pele, Elway or Agassi. We wanted to be superstars and somehow still live the lives of normal kids -- going to birthday parties, playing after school and learning to become productive members of society. We didn't understand the price they paid in order to achieve greatness in their sport.

Similarly, today many of my peers dream of becoming the next Steve Jobs, Mark Zuckerberg, Malcolm Gladwell, Ramit Sethi, Richard Branson, Marc Cuban or Bill Gates. We want to be a superstar and still live the life of a normal working adult. We want to see our friends, hangout on the weekends, live a low stress lifestyle (no worries), and yet have all of the riches and freedom the life of a high-profile entrepreneur promises.

But, are we willing to pay the price?

You’ll “Sleep Like The Dead” If You Do These 9 Things After 9 PM

You’ll “Sleep Like The Dead” If You Do These 9 Things After 9 PM

It's 4:59 AM and I'm waiting outside of Starbucks at the Dallas/Fort Worth Airport. A mob of exhausted travelers gathers near the entrance and waits impatiently for the barista to lift the gates. Each weary traveler scans the menu with their bloodshot eyes, anticipating the quick hit of caffeine and sugar before they head to their final destination. With their sunken eye sockets, drooping shoulders and outstretched arms, they look more like a group of zombies than a group of upper middle-class business travelers.

After getting my morning cup of coffee, I head to the bathroom and look in the mirror. An unrecognizable set of bloodshot and sunken eyes stares back at me in the mirror.

I am one of them.

As I return to my waiting area I'm reminded of the importance of a good night of sleep and a successful routine that always precedes a night of rejuvenating rest. In the last year, I found that you burn out fast when you aren't doing the little things that set you up for success. With that in mind, I've highlighted 9 things that I try to do each night before bed. I don't always complete each one, but when I do, I know tomorrow will be successful. It’s that simple.

9 things may seem like an awful lot, but you’re already doing 9+ things each night and what I'm going to describe isn't that crazy. Most of these ideas I've borrowed from top performers like Arnold Schwarzenegger, Charlie Munger, Dave Asprey, Napoleon Hill, Thomas Edison, Jim Rohn and my dad.

My intention with this is to give you a set of tools to help you maximize your nightly routine.

See what resonates with you. Try one. Maybe two. Test and see what happens.

Let's dive in.

You're A Badass: The Simple 5 "R" Framework To Become Your Best Self Even When You Feel Stuck

You're A Badass: The Simple 5 "R" Framework To Become Your Best Self Even When You Feel Stuck

Becoming the most badass version of yourself is hard work and can be exhausting. Sometimes you just don't have it and feel stuck or like you're not making any progress.

Because you are the driver of your own success, it's easy to stop when you get overwhelmed. No one has a gun to your head and is forcing you become more confident, increase your leadership skills, get fit or make more money. There's no due date. 

You have to be your own motivator, coach, manager, CEO and worker bee and it's easy to get lost in the mindless sea of to-do's, social media, sports, Netflix and societal pressure to conform. Falling off the path is the norm. 

Let's face it -- you will get lost and fall off the path. It's inevitable. What you must learn is: What to do when it happens... 

In this post I'm going to share 5 things that you can use to become the best version of yourself. 

I call it "The  5 "R" Framework of Becoming The Most Baddass Version of You".

In this post, you'll learn about (mostly through car metaphors):

  • How to deal with overwhelm and keep your focus on what matters.
  • A simple software tool you can use to create an awesome dream board (one of my favorite exercises).
  • The worst (and smallest) car in the world. 
  • Jim Rohn and Ronnie Coleman's personal development philosophies.
  • How to become the most badass version of you. 

The Consistency Formula I Discovered From Tracking My Habits For 913 Days

The Consistency Formula I Discovered From Tracking My Habits For 913 Days

Everyone knows what they should be doing. That's easy. Doing it is the hard part. 


The other day a reader and friend told me his biggest struggle. He said: "My biggest struggle is that I can't maintain any sort of consistency with my habits. I know exactly what I should be doing, I just can't get myself to stick with it long enough to see results."

After analyzing 913 days of data from tracking my habits.... I've discovered that that are 5 things and only 5 things that help me to be consistent each day. When I follow this simple formula, I'm productive and make progress towards my big goals. 

I'm calling it The Consistency Formula!

The 7 Step Method To Achieve Any Goal

The 7 Step Method To Achieve Any Goal

To all my peak performing and goal achieving friends out there (yes, that’s you!), let’s discuss the finest and most comprehensive goal setting process available. It’s called…

The 7 Step Method To Achieve Any Goal

Whatever YOUR top new year's goal is -- grow your business, get organized, lose weight, spend less, get fit, be happier, get promoted, fall in love, enjoy life more, you can use this ultra effective goal setting process to achieve your top new year’s goal.

The 4 Fundamentals Of Unstoppable Motivation

The 4 Fundamentals Of Unstoppable Motivation

The other day, I was asked a question by a reader and friend.

She asked: "It’s hard for me to stay motivated and consistently make progress towards my goals. How do I get motivated and stay motivated?"

It's a good question, because when we are motivated, we stay consistent and we make progress. We'll stay up late, read all the books, put in the extra work, develop the skills, create the habits and do all the little things necessary to realize our goal.

It's that simple.

This got me thinking about the times where I was driven like an obsessive maniac to accomplish a goal, and the times I was unmotivated and failed. 

After searching through my stories, and re-reading the lessons of great leaders and peak performers, I noticed that there are 4 fundamentals to getting motivated and staying motivated.

When we understand and implement these fundamentals we create unstoppable motivation and achieve our goal. 

How To Quit Your Job, Find Your Purpose, Become The Next Steve Jobs, And Start A Revolution!

How To Quit Your Job, Find Your Purpose, Become The Next Steve Jobs, And Start A Revolution!

Admit it! You want to quit your job and become the next Steve Jobs.

You've imagined slamming down your resignation letter on your boss's desk, running over to Apple headquarters, slipping on a black turtleneck and pulling the next "i" product out of your pocket to a crowd of screaming Apple fans!

Or... maybe you haven't.

The point is, I talk with dozens of people each week who tell me their dreams. They want to build their own business, travel the world, start a revolution, create the next wave of consumer technology or cure degenerative diseases. "The Dream" of just climbing the corporate ladder, getting intoxicated on the weekends and retiring at 65 is dead. We don't want that anymore.

We feel like we're destined for something bigger and we are driven by something else. Our peers think were crazy and we feel awkward talking about our dreams to "normal people". 

Other generations really don't get it -- they are completely driven by top line sales revenue, business growth and personal financial gain...

 

WE ARE DRIVEN BY PURPOSE.

8 Reasons Multitasking Is Bad For Your Brain

8 Reasons Multitasking Is Bad For Your Brain

We couldn't focus.

We couldn't get things done.

We were tired.

Our minds were always racing.

We couldn't sleep.

We kept making mistakes. 

And our To-Do lists kept growing and growing and growing. 

We tried to fix it…. by adding more to our to-do’s and doing more things at the same time. This only made it worse. 

To make matters more confusing we blamed it on gluten, high fructose corn syrup, vaccines, mercury in our fish, fracking, and the depleting ozone layer. Mass media fed on our fears and convinced us that the problem was everywhere and there was nothing we could do. All of this noise confused us and led us away from the root cause of the problem. 

It was right under our nose the whole time. You’re probably holding it in your hand. 

4 Books That Will Make You A Genius

4 Books That Will Make You A Genius

Many books are written and released each year. Most of them are bad, some of them are good, a few are great, and the top .001% are exceptional. 

It’s rare that an author is a great writer AND has deep domain expertise. This is a list of books by authors who are both.

Who’s this book list for? The creative/visionary/big picture thinker who wants to awaken their inner genius.  

How Eminem Used Success Habits To Recover From Drug Addiction

How Eminem Used Success Habits To Recover From Drug Addiction

A man who took a handful of white pills in an attempt to quiet the demons that called his name... A nearly empty fifth of vodka, perched on a table… A set of dark sunken eyes staring back in a dimly light mirror... The core of a man being challenged by his god…

…..He could no longer escape his past and his future threatened him…. He fell down and got up…. He fell again, this time paralyzed, unable to move... Everything went black....

...An instant that changed his life.  

When he woke up, the men wearing white coats said he was two hours away from dying. He'd taken too much this time, it nearly killed him. Next time he might not be lucky.

The pills were supposed to be just like valium- a drug he knew all too well. It wasn’t. The amount of Methadone he’d taken was the equivalent of 4 bags of heroin. Enough to kill most men. 

As he lay there, part of him wanted it to be over, to escape the life that that tortured him. It would be easier this way. The the other part still had a spark. That part still wanted to make music, to be a good father and live a good life.

His spark kept him going. 

This is his story of Eminem’s recovery. It’s about how he got motivated, created new success habits, used mentors to get his life back and began making music again. 

3 Simple Steps To Create An Exercise Habit That Sticks!

3 Simple Steps To Create An Exercise Habit That Sticks!

My friend Dave is disappointed with life.

His job sucks, his life lacks meaning, his income is low, and he’s not confident.

All of these issues stem from what he see’s in the mirror. He’s skinny. Like really skinny.

It may be a compliment to call a girl skinny, but It’s the kiss of death for a guy. It not only insults his general manliness, but makes him feel weak, feminine, and soft.

Because he hates the way he looks, he finds it hard to be happy, grateful and assertive in his daily life. You would think this would be enough to start lifting weights and pounding down protein shakes. It isn’t.

Like most of us, he has tried to start an exercise habit, but failed.

In this article, I'm going to show you how to create one that sticks. 

How To Become Hollywood's Most Persuasive Man

How To Become Hollywood's Most Persuasive Man

This article is a series of lessons learned from Hollywood's greatest promoter and biggest dealmaker. He’s the man behind Elvis Presley, Frank Sinatra, Bob Dylan, John Denver, The Ocean’s 11 Franchise, The Karate Kid and many more. 

 

No matter what life threw at him from club rooms of Brooklyn, to Mafia hangouts of NY’s Lower East side, to the hills of Hollywood he found a way to promote and sell tickets to his shows. 

"All life was a theater and I wanted to put it up on a stage," he writes. "I wanted to set the world under a marquee that read: 'Jerry Weintraub Presents.’ 

He’s is the most persuasive man in the history of showbiz and changed the industry with his unique insights. His path to mastery is a model for all of us. 

 

3 Steps To Turn Tiny Personal Habits Into HUGE Results

3 Steps To Turn Tiny Personal Habits Into HUGE Results

We live in a magic pill society.

  • Get rich in 30 days!
  • Lose 20 Lbs in 20 workouts!
  • Find the woman/man of your dreams in 7 easy steps!

After being exposed to so many different marketing messages, we start to believe that we’re special (it’s everyone else who needs to figure it out!).

Ramit Sethi calls this “Special Snowflake Syndrome”, Andre 3000 of OutKast calls it “thinking your shit don’t stink” and Charlie Munger calls it “delusional confidence”. These phrases all point back to same fundamental flaws of human psychology.

  1. We can’t see how our daily habits affect us in the long term.
  2. We think we’re going to become an overnight success.
  3. We think we’ll avoid the decades of hard work that typically goes into building a life worth living.
  4. We think we deserve it.

Unfortunately, you can’t avoid the truth.

How To 10x Your Productivity Before 8am

How To 10x Your Productivity Before 8am

Another day dawns. Typically, it goes something like this…

The alarm sounds on your smartphone. Ugh. You grab it, hit snooze, and… You awake to look at the clock and it’s been well over an hour. “WTF just happened!?” The day is now well underway. The detour has left you scrambling for time and running late for your work, without achieving anything you intended.

A wonderfully unproductive start.

The day then continues on a sidewards course. You still feel half asleep, you’re angry that you didn’t get to eat and exercise like you wanted, and you just can’t seem to get on top of things. It’s like you’re always one step behind...

Does this sound familiar? Sadly, it’s an all too regular occurrence, especially as your workload increases, your commitments heighten, and you try to cram more into each and every day. You seem to have more to do, and less time to do it.

How do you break this destructive cycle? What if there was a way to put yourself on the right foot as soon as the alarm sounds? What if, when you wake up, you’re able to create your most productive day ever and really kickstart your life into gear instead?

The Free StrengthsFinder That Actually Works

The Free StrengthsFinder That Actually Works

There a major problem with StrengthFinder Tests. They are meant for people who are unchanging and static. For the average Joe or Jane who watches 6 hours a TV everyday and goes to a job that they tolerate for 40+ years and then retires; they work fine.

These tests focus on who you are right now. Not who you want to be and what you want to do. They don’t integrate important factors such as your values and the environment you grew up in.

If you are a dynamic and constantly developing person, than you are going to need a different solution.

What follows below is a strengthsfinder for the dynamic, developing, multipotentialite who understands that who they are today and they person they will be in 10 years is massively different.

4 Steps for Immediately Breaking Bad Habits

4 Steps for Immediately Breaking Bad Habits

We all know what we should be doing, yet we have a hard time actually doing it. We are quick to judge others and slow to take action in our own lives.

Unsure of how our surrounding and environment affect us, we get mad at our lack of willpower, self control, lack of consistency and our inability to create habits that would ultimately get us ahead.

It’s time we understand what creates lasting change. It’s only after we understand this process that we can begin to make the changes that get us ahead of the competition and start doing the work that actually matters.

What follows is a process for understanding how to break bad habits and replace them with empowering ones. If you have bad habits that hold you back. This post is for you.

5 Ways to Get In "The Zone" (Proven by Science)

5 Ways to Get In "The Zone" (Proven by Science)

The zone is just a brainwave state

It’s important to know that “The Zone” is not a quasi-mythological state, but well researched brain wave state.

Research conducted by the Biocybernaut Institute shows that peak performers from Brady to Mark Cuban know how to generate peak performance when they need to. They understand how to calm their nervous system before big moments and can get generate performance boosting brain waves (almost at will).

Today’s post is about how top performers can use well researched methods and techniques to produce more Alpha brainwaves and get in the zone. 

The Secret to A Balanced Life

The Secret to A Balanced Life

It was Friday and I forgot to bring my lunch (I hate it, when I do that!).

My coworker Blake (also without lunch) asked me if I wanted to go to The India Palace.

We grabbed plates and quickly started demolishing mouthfuls of basmati rice and tandoori chicken. In between bites of naan we started talking about our current life struggles including our financial, personal and spiritual goals.

Common conversation topics for me.